Sex Is Not About Effort, It’s About Energy {Sacha Fossa}

“The most important thing I have learned about sex is that it’s not about effort as much as it is about running energy.” ~ Sacha Fossa


S HP headshotWhat does that mean to “run energy” and how do you do it sexually?

With intention and visualization you can get your energy to run into another person, and they can receive and run it back to you in the same manner. For some it takes a little time to develop being able to feel the energy, with others it is immediate.

Tantra sessions teach you how to open up, feel, conduct, play with and explore this energy in your own body and with a partner.

Tantra Educators help provide this through sacred touch and running energy with you. We don’t touch your genitals and you don’t have to be naked. Running sexual energy for healing is perfectly safe and can be done fully clothed in person, or by distance. Similar to giving or receiving Reiki and other types of energy work, running sexual energy is really not mysterious.

“Put away your pointless taboos and restrictions on sexual energy, rather help others to truly understand its wonder, and to channel it properly.” – Neale Donald Walsh

When we choose to focus specifically on our sexual energy, we can create more power in the energy we are running.

If this energy is run straight from one’s genitals to your partner, he/she may feel uncomfortable, or they may enjoy it. For example, a woman sending energy from her pussy/yoni straight to a man’s lingam/cock may instigate arousal, even from across a room or even a continent, and vice versa. Likewise a stranger sending pure sexual energy from the genitals to another could bring unease and instigate feelings of being invaded. It is important to balance the energy by bringing it up through your chakras (energy centers) and through your heart, hands, third eye or crown.

“Sex can be a time of total dissolution in love. Sex can bathe every cell in your body with light, bliss, and life force. Sex can be an ecstatic practice of open-hearted communion and surrender to infinity. Or, sex can be 10 or 20 minutes of genital stimulation ending in a spasm of biological relief.” – David Deida

new me @ HPAnyone can learn how to run sexual energy consciously. With Tantra, we run orgasmic energy through all parts of ourselves. When you learn to run sexual energy, you can help heal and bring your partner to orgasm energetically. This is a life skill that we believe should be taught and practiced as part of sex education.

First Steps for Running Sexual Energy

Clear Yourself. Do you feel good? What do you feel? What are you thinking? Check how clear your energy is, including your thoughts. Always remember this: Energy Follows Thought – It is Universal Law. Notice what you are thinking! Ask that any energy that is not yours or serving you be run out through the bottoms of your feet or out through your fingers into the Earth for transmutation. Always clear your energy first, and then ground yourself. This should be your mantra before doing anything, especially when it comes to sending energy to another.

Find out where you want to direct your energy to and for what purpose. It is always best to ask permission first, and yet do not be attached to the outcome. Are you sending energy for healing, arousal, support, nurturing, strength? Decide prior to sending. Then ask your partner, what quality of energy do they wish to receive? Request them to place your hands where they would like to have energy run to. Where is their body is calling for touch/healing/connection? Connecting the heart chakra (center of chest in between breasts) and the genitals (a gently cupping of) is a powerful method for those who feel safe in this level of connection.

This is just one very easy way to get started playing with your sexual energy in and out of the bedroom. This practice can help you and/or your partner recover from illnesses, gain more self-confidence, and increase your pleasure and love in everything that you do!



Sacha L. Fossa is a Sex, Relationship and Intimacy Coach, Advanced Certified Tantric Educator (ACTE) and Holistic Healer who helps individuals and couples get the Best Sex and Love Life they have always wanted. With an MA in Health, Arts and Sciences, 20 certifications in the healing arts, and 10 years of practice, she offers coaching, healing and bodywork from a place of academic, experiential, and embodied knowledge.

Having personally walked the path of sexual trauma and depression to awakening and healing, empowering others to heal and release trauma, have more pleasure, and live orgasmically has become her greatest passion.  Embracing pleasure as a way of life is the new healing paradigm she seeks to inspire, guiding clients to more wellness, vitality, romance, sensuality, and even ecstasy.

Sacha’s business, Sacred Temple Arts, offers sessions, programs and trainings, in person, by phone or Skype. To contact her, visit and sign up for a free initial Best Sex & Love Life consultation.

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P.S Source Tantra also offers Beginner’s weekend seminars that are an excellent introduction to awakening and directing sexual energy. Sign up here: STUDY TANTRA


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